Column: Let’s be kind to each other in Lockdown III

So, Lockdown III is here. They say sequels are never better than the original and this is frankly the worst yet.

You’d think that we had to be professionals these days, with start up, shut down, start up, shut down.

But the toll that it is taking on so many of the most resilient people I know is frightening.

Ranging from the future of our kids and what you would think would be utter joy at not returning to school, was very much muted in this house.

Also the home schooling disasters from last year – it is fair to say I don’t wonder if I should ever have taken that PGCE anymore – to people who are trying to juggle kids, home, sanity or loneliness to keep an even keel on their lives.

So how do we best try to keep on keeping on?

I found that keeping a routine is a help, even if it is not my normal one and it may or may not include scheduled time for watching TikTok.

I know, I’m too old.

Get some daylight, go for a walk.

If you do walk past people, try to remember to smile and say hello from behind the mask – the difference it makes is immense.

I know there is fear out there, but Sunday’s walk included a number of people pulling their coat around their faces and edging sideways across the path.

There is the feel of a detective about this particular move but seriously, it frightens the kids.

Go out and find a community that works for you. Early Bird Run Crew is one of my favourites.

I am definitely not running early and not as much as I used to run, but the community is incredibly welcoming for anyone new and although we can’t currently run together the online support is immense.

Check on your neighbours, there are still so many people shielding, in real fear and they are incredibly lonely.

A note through the door or a distanced chat make all the difference. I promise.

Make social media work for you. If it makes you anxious or people are getting you down, try and limit your time there.

The last few years have seen some incredibly polarised views on certain platforms and whilst debate and discussion is great, if you don’t have the energy and aren’t enjoying it, step away or find another platform that works for you.

If you need further support, there are people out there you can speak to.

If you need signposting for any support the Harrogate CVS has a fantastic resource and directory on their www.hadca.org.uk website and, if you type what you’re looking for, eg ‘food’ it can take you to the right organisation to help.

Locally we have Harrogate MIND with a counselling and befriending service - 01423 503335, Wellspring have online counselling and can be contacted on 01423 881 881, and JustB, which is a great resource following bereavement, on 01423 814480.

The Samaritans are open 24 hours a day and you can call 116 123, you can even e-mail or write a letter. And CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably) is open 5pm until midnight 0800 585858.

If you feel you need support, please use it.

There is no shame, the numbers are there to be used and many have upped their capacity for support during this time as so many people are finding it difficult.

Above all, try and be kind to one another.In person, online and in our community.