Impatiently waiting for sister’s baby

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I’m on tenterhooks at the moment, waiting for the phone to ring for news of my sisters impending labour.

It’s her first baby and she is already a week overdue.

Our Mumblings columnist Sally Haslewood.

Our Mumblings columnist Sally Haslewood.

She is being remarkably relaxed about it. I, on the other hand have been mentally pacing the floor for the last week!

With my first baby I only went two days overdue but being the impatient control freak that I am, even those 48 hours drove me mad.

I actually think it is worse for me waiting to hear news from her than it was when I was waiting to give birth myself.

When it was me waiting to get going I could at least busy myself preparing the nursery, packing and unpacking the hospital bag and generally faffing around in a clucky nesting kind of way.

I had dozens of texts and phone calls from well-wishers asking me how things were going and whether or not there was any news.

To be honest it drove me absolutely mad at the time when the answer was “nothing to report” but now I find myself doing it to my sister.

Daily phone calls have become the norm and I actually feel disappointed if I notice that she’s been on Facebook.

I have turned into some sort of pregnancy stalker!

I am so excited for her as she has done me the honour of asking me if I’ll be there at the birth and to say I’m looking forward to it is something of an understatement.

I hope that I will be able to be a really valuable support to her and while her very capable husband is also going to be there, I think that having gone through it all myself twice fairly recently I should be fairly helpful to them both.

It’s such an exciting but scary time waiting for your first labour to begin.

I remember talking it over at length with my husband but knowing full well that no amount of theoretical preparation was really going to help.

My husband (who fancies himself as a bit of a comedian) would tell me that he had prepared a few motivational phrases to use during the delivery.

These included “pain is just weakness leaving the body”.

“It’s just like going for a number two” and “c’mon, you’re just not trying hard enough...”

Needless to say none of these were uttered. He wouldn’t have dared!

He freely admits it actually gave him a new found respect for the female species having watched two babies being born.

He told me he was intending to have a go on the gas and air.

It never happened; he would have needed the strength of ten men to wrestle it out of my fist.

He also said he would remain at the head end; curiosity and the fact that the second midwife was late quashed that ideal. He was handed a torch and told by a fairly matronly midwife to “Shine it up there and don’t move!”

It’s such a huge event that is about to happen for my sister.

Her whole life is about to change and we’re all just waiting for the kick off.

The labour is just the start of this journey and I can’t wait to watch you along the way.

Good luck Sis!

WHAT’S ON?

Saturday, October 20 and Sunday, October 21

Grow Your Own Autumn Festival at Harlow Carr Gardens.

Tastings, grow your own advice, country crafts and activities for children - we’ve got it all!

Highlights include cookery demonstrations on the new outdoor oven and fire pit in the kitchen garden and autumn jobs with BBC presenter Joe Maiden.

Check the website for full details.

Countryside Live at Great Yorkshire Showground

If you’re looking for a great day out with the family that offers you something just a little bit different, then countryside live is the event for you. It aims to bring countryside to you - you’ll see livestock, equine competitions, hands-on crafts for you and the children.
Events include: ferret racing, diggerland experience, show jumping, sheepdog displays, equine classes, sheep show, dog agility plus food zone, crafts and fruit, vegetable and flower show.

Strictly no dogs allowed

Tuesday, October 23

Coppice Valley Primary School, Knapping Hill, Harrogate, HG1 2DN

9.30am - 11.30am, parents and their pre-school aged children are invited to a free Halloween themed Stay and Play session in our reception classes.

Children may come dressed in Halloween costumes if they would like to. There will be card making, face painting, pumpkin carving, biscuit making and lots more!

Also an ideal opportunity to tour the school and meet the headteacher should you wish to.

Looking ahead

Sunday, October 28

Finding Frasers feet Halloween fundraiser: After the success of the children’s party over the summer we are now holding a Children’s Halloween Party. We have a disco and lots of spooky fun with Halloween themed games, and a raffle. Fancy dress is encouraged as there will be a prize for best fancy dress. Fancy Dress for the adults too if you wish!

It is at the Holiday Inn, Harrogate on Sunday, October 23 from 3-6pm.

Tickets are £6 per child and are available from Fraser’s Mum Karen Bushby-Russellor on 07816 309662.